My daughter is in a relationship that is so wrong for her. She needs to break free from her abuse, but she keeps going back. I don’t understand it. I have tried to help in every way I know but she won’t let me in. She turns the problem around and makes it about me. When I look at her, I see the old me that kept trying to hold on to a bad relationship. A relationship that I really needed to let go.
Regardless of what is going on in a relationship, you are not going to leave until you have had enough. But you only hurt yourself because it doesn’t get better, it gets worse.
My abuser robbed me of my self esteem and made me feel worthless. I felt no one loved me or cared about me, but the truth was I didn’t love myself. I see these things in my daughter also. I need her to see the abuser for who he is. She deserves to be happy and she has a son who needs her. I speak at the Shelter once a week to battered and abused women. They listen and understand, but I cannot reach my own daughter. Any suggestions?
Imagine a mother leaving her two year old daughter in the front yard frightened and lone, only to return years later. In the interim, the child’s Dad, notorious in his own right, becomes the responsible parent. This was the beginning of life for me, Sharon D. Johnson. Needless to say, I grew up fast. I dropped out of school and became a mother at age thirteen.
Fast forward ten years and I was a single mother with three beautiful little girls. But with limited resources and no place to live, I ended up at the home of mother that abandoned me. I was young, homeless with nowhere else to go. One day I went to work and left my girls with my mother, only to return home and find them sitting on the front porch in the cold because she had locked them out of the house. From there I found my way to the local Family Shelter.
Time spent at the shelter had a profound impact on my life. I learned how to survive on my own. I appreciated the safe haven the shelter provided women with children like me.
Fast forward again twenty years to the new mature, successful Sharon D. Johnson; published author, business owner and friend to women in transition. I am founder of YOU TOO, a support group for abused women living in shelters. We meet weekly and discuss topics such ending domestic abuse; moving forward after the breakup and living an independent life.
It wasn’t easy, but I moved on with my life but not without many mistakes and regrets. I know that I am not alone. Many women have outgrown partners or simply refused to take abuse anymore. We have proven that it can be done and we can live to tell the story. We can inspire others to do the same. That’s my story – I would love to hear yours.