Category Archives: Parental help

Life without my mother…

 

I am eagerly writing my second book every day. It is a true story about the circumstances that led up to my abusive relationship. My childhood was crazy. I experienced things as a child that you would not believe. Not the “normal” wrong doing like sexual abuse, but much worse. 

My mother was never there for me. My teeth were rotten and my hair was thick and bonded. She never did anything to take care of me. When my step-mother came along she combed my hair and put ear rings in my ears. She taught me all the things a little girl should know. 

Although my dad stayed on me and my grandmother went out of her way to make me happy, something was still missing. I realized it was my mother. If she had been dead, it would have been different. But she didn’t die, she just walked away and it created a void in my life. It took years for me to come to grips with it. I go into much deeper details in my book because it is more than this blog can hold. 

Sometimes things happen and you never understand why. I have learned to pray and search for understanding. Today I am a mother and a grandmother. I love being a mother and I never want my kids to feel the pain I felt. I want my children to know that they are loved.

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Help for my daughter

My daughter is in a relationship that is so wrong for her.  She needs to break free from her abuse, but she keeps going back.  I don’t understand it.  I have tried to help in every way I know but she won’t let me in.  She turns the problem around and makes it about me.  When I look at her, I see the old me that kept trying to hold on to a bad relationship.  A relationship that I really needed to let go.

Regardless of what is going on in a relationship, you are not going to leave until you have had enough.  But you only hurt yourself because it doesn’t get better, it gets worse.

My abuser robbed me of my self esteem and made me feel worthless.  I felt no one loved me or cared about me, but the truth was I didn’t love myself.  I see these things in my daughter also.  I need her to see the abuser for who he is.  She deserves to be happy and she has a son who needs her.  I speak at the Shelter once a week to battered and abused women.  They listen and understand, but I cannot reach my own daughter.  Any suggestions?

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